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The Circle of Abuse

Posted in Awareness, North America, Our Health with tags , , , , , , on April 23, 2010 by Mijiza Zeyzey

Brother of Oscar-winning actress Mo’Nique apologizes to sister for molestation. Mo’Nique won Best Supporting Actress Academy Award for her role as an abusive mother in the film “Precious: Based on the Novel Push, by Sapphire.” She said she was able to draw from her childhood experience of abuse to play the role. She compared the “monster” she played to the “monster” her oldest brother was while abusing her.

Gerald Imes, Mo’Nique’s brother, told Oprah the sexual abuse happened over a period of two years, mostly while he believed Mo’Nique was sleeping. Imes also said,

“I started using cocaine, heroin, [sic] alcohol at the age of 11. I used these drugs to hide my own pain, to hide my own fears . . . The drugs allowed me and afforded me the opportunity to hurt my sister.”

Imes said he had been sexually abused and he tried to hide the shame he felt. He took it out on his sister and later another girl. He served 12 years for that molestation. He hopes by coming forth now that somewhere in the future he and Mo’Nique can come together as siblings.

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Domestic Violence and Abuse in the African American Community

Posted in Awareness, CULTURE with tags , , , , on April 11, 2010 by Mijiza Zeyzey

African American women experience domestic violence 35 percent more than white women and 22 percent more than women of other races. African American women are more likely to be shot by an intimate partner than women of other races.

The Surgeon General of the U. S. says domestic violence causes more injury to women than cancers, heart attacks, or strokes.

Economics has proven to play a role in domestic violence. As the economy worsen, the rate of violence against women increases. Lack of education, poor training, poor problem solving skills, drug use, and alcohol use also contributes to domestic violence.

Abuse that’s on many forms; emotional, physical, psychological, and sexual. Domestic abuse can be conducted by a sexual partner, a former sexual partner, or a family member.

African American women remain in relationships troubled by domestic abuse and violence more than their white counterparts. Reasons for this may be due to:

  • Few martial options
  • Low income
  • Reluctance to seek assistance
  • Lack of community shelters

Victims of domestic violence and abuse should not have to stand alone. It is a community problem. It should be addressed by churches, hospitals, corporations, and civic groups.

Addressing the problem as a community increases options for victims. Recognition of the perpetrators need for aid to change lowers the rate of occurrence. Support groups for families in crisis can direct perpetrators and victims to the right resources. Silence only adds to the problem by enabling it to continue and worsen.

Find community support and resources or call the National Domestic Violence hot line at (800) 799-SAFE.

Female Genital Mutilation

Posted in Awareness, CULTURE, Mother Africa with tags , , on April 7, 2010 by Mijiza Zeyzey

Female Genital Mutilation, FGM, is a tradition found in Africa and other parts of the world. It is a painful, medically unnecessary, alteration to the genitals of young girls and women. In African an estimated 92 million girls from the age of 10 endure this procedure. Globally an estimated 100 to 130 million girls and women have undergone this procedure.

The four major procedures:

  1. Clitoridectomy – The partial or total removal of the clitoris (in rare cases removing only the prepuce).
  2. Excision – The partial or total removal of the clitoris and the labia (the “lips”).
  3. Infibulations – Creating a seal by cutting and repositioning the labia to narrow the vaginal opening.
  4. Other – Any harmful procedure to the genital area, including piercing, scraping, pricking, incising, etc.

The practice is done for several reasons:

  • To insure that a woman remains a virgin until marriage by lowering her sexual desires
  • To reduce the size of the vagina to increase the husbands pleasure
  • As a passage into womanhood
  • Thinking it will make a woman more hygienic, or fertile, or aesthetically pleasing
  • Thinking it will increase infant survival rates

Consequences of the Procedure:

  • Reoccurring bladder and urinary tract infections
  • Infertility
  • Cysts
  • Childbirth complications and newborn deaths
  • Need for corrective surgeries

FGM is an abuse to women that causes lifelong health risks. Risks include massive bleeding that leads to shock, trauma stemming from excessive pain, life treating infections, and even death.

FGM is a violation to women’s rights that are protected by international law.

Emmett Till

Posted in Awareness, HISTORY, North America with tags , , on February 6, 2010 by Mijiza Zeyzey

In the summer of 1955, Emmett Till was a fun loving 14 year-old, who was brutally murdered for whistling at a white woman in a Mississippi store. Emmett was from Chicago and unfamiliar with Jim Crow. Simeon Wright, his cousin, says that Emmett was alone in the store for only a minute before he was sent in by relatives. Jim Crow, a racial caste system, was like an out of control pit bull.  People of African descent had different rules to follow and the pit bull (Jim Crow) enforced them. Emmett’s cousin was sent in to be sure that Emmett followed the rules of Jim Crow.

Jim Crow allowed a claim of the teen putting his arm around storekeeper Carolyn Bryant, as a defense for the men that killed him. Sixty-seven year-old Wright, told Smithsonian magazine reporter, Abby Callard, that during the time that he was with Emmett, Bryant was behind the counter. He said it was impossible for Emmett to have had his arm around her. He said as they were walking from the store, Bryant went to her car. It was then that Emmett whistled at her.

“You guys might be afraid to do something like this, but not me.” Young Emmett’s words showed that he had no idea of the consequences of his action. “When he saw our reaction, he got scared too.” Wright said.

That night Emmett was drugged from his bed by Roy Bryant, J. W. Milan, and other men. He was forced at gun point to get into a truck. The men asked the person inside the truck if they had the right boy. Emmett’s mother and cousin could hear a woman’s voice say that they did.

The men were found not guilty, but later confessed. Emmett’s mother wanted his body viewed in a glass top coffin to show the world how they had beaten her son.//

Police Taser Teen

Posted in Humanity, NEWS with tags , on January 25, 2010 by Mijiza Zeyzey

Jordon Miles, diligent student of Pittsburgh’s esteemed Creative and Performing Arts High School, was shot by police with a stun gun while walking to his grandmother’s. Photo taken by his mother, Terez Miles, shows that teen was severely beaten and the bald spot where police tore out his hair.

The incident happened January 11, down the block from his home. Jordon says that three men in plain clothes approached him as he walked. He says they yelled “Where’s the drugs, where’s the gun, where’s the money?” The teen ran, thinking that he was at risk. Officers Michael Saldutte, Richard Ewing, and David Sisak said in their criminal report that was leaning against a house,  trying to avoid being seen. After seeing a large object in the teen’s coat, they identified themselves and started to question the teen, but he ran. Jordon has no prior arrests or incidents with the police. The officers claim Jordon began elbowing and kicking them when they caught up with him. Both, the officers and the teen, agree that Jordon was tasered and struck several times to the face and head.

Pittsburgh Mayor Luke Ravenstahl says it is “it seems that it was a tremendous amount of force used and the question now is,  was it an appropriate use of force . . .”  Currently the officers have been reassigned. They did not show for the January 21, hearing which has been postponed to February 18. Kerry Lewis, Jordon’s attorney, says the postponement form read, “Victims aren’t here.” The victim, Jordon Miles, was present.

Photo by Terez Miles